Children, Lifestyle, My Life

Chatty Life Update

It has been a long time, since I have done a life update. To be honest, nothing had really changed and I didn’t have a reason to post an update. So much has happened in such a short amount of time that I feel like I need to do a life update post. I have so much stuff that I want to talk about. First, I’ll take about my posting schedule, which is I don’t have one. I blog on Saturday and Sunday for the most part and pre-schedule posts to go up during the week. I love blogging and if I don’t blog like yesterday, I’m writing reviews to go up on my blog. Most of my reviews are pre-written with pen and paper. I enjoy blogging, but I don’t do a set number. I try to at least post twice a week.

You are talking with a college graduate right now. Yes, you heard that right. I earned my Associates in Information Technology on August 21st. I plan pursuing another Associates in Insurance Data Analytics. I probably won’t start that until November and the first test period would be between April and June. I would probably take another break and not take the next test until October to December of next year. At the end of next year, I’ll have another degree. That is the plan BUT I have made a bid on a job within my company. I applied for the position of Actuarial Analyst. I would like to be an Actuary and this is like the starting position for that. Also, the starting salary is double of what I make now. If I get this job, I could save enough to go house shopping next year! So, depending upon if I get a new job, the degree plans could go right out the door.

Dean has been struggling with talking for a long time. He was just qualified for early intervention services in my town. He scored more than 30% lower than the average boy his age. He is seeing a speech therapist who is bringing in an occupational therapist and developmental specialist that will work with him 1 hour a week. They all come in and see Dean with my dad while I’m at work. I was there for the consultation and the assessment test that scored him. He is also getting a hearing test on Wednesday to make sure his hearing is okay, because he doesn’t listen. I know people are going to say that kids don’t listen, but he literally doesn’t pay much attention when you call for him. It’s a bit worrisome, so it’s just to rule out a hearing issue.

Later this month, Dean is going to a pediatric dentist that is like an hour and a half away to see if he can laser Dean’s tongue tie and upper lip tie. His ties are affecting his speech and the speech therapist will write a letter to that effect for the dentist for insurance purposes. Hopefully, he’ll have an appointment by November to fix his ties. It is a laser treatment and they give kids a little drink to fall asleep before using the laser. It takes 30 seconds per cut, so I’m looking at like a 10 minute procedure when it actuality it will be like 5 minutes or less and he can eat and drink right after.

The early intervention program is going to be reaching out to the Beacon program, which will work in your home for up to 40 hours with your Autistic child. Yes, you read that right. They are thinking that Dean is on the spectrum. I love my son no matter what, but I always knew he was different. Did you know that autistic children have higher than average IQs? So, my boy must be really smart. I’ll take all the help to get him to talk. I just want him to tell me he is hungry, thirsty, or went poopy. I’m also selfish and I want to hear him say mommy when he isn’t upset and that he loves me. I want to ask him if he’s hungry and get a yes or a no answer. I just want to be able to communicate with my boy.

I just want to know that I’m not a terrible mother and did everything I could to help my child. People are going to blame the vaccines on why he’s autistic or that I must have done something bad during my pregnancy. But the truth is, I carry the maternal genes for autism and Asperger’s since both of my brothers have it. (One with each). But it’s not a death sentence. He’s not handicapped. He just needs help with speech, social skills, and fine motor development. He loves to be hugged and kissed. He’s a lovable boy that’s just too smart for the rest of us and they just don’t think/see the world like we do.

And we should love everyone of these kids instead of segregating them and saying they are abnormal. Maybe, to them, we are the abnormal ones that need help and they are trying to show us the way.

With Love ❤

Selena

5 thoughts on “Chatty Life Update”

  1. Thank you for sharing, Hannah. Congratulations on you degree. That’s so wonderful. I See your drive, feel your energy and I envy that.
    Dean will be fine. As you know, Zachary is on the Autism spectrum. He has therapists to help him and he attends regular school. He can be a handful, and has his issues for sure, but he is so smart and loveable.
    You will go far, Hannah. Reach for the stars.

    1. Awe, thank you! This is just what I needed to hear. I just worry about Dean and if I’m doing enough. I know that I am now. I’m trying everything that I can to help him and that’s all anyone can do. You know, Dean is the reason behind all of my drive. He’s the reason that I push myself and challenge myself. I want to give him a better life than what I had, filled with love and security. I loved being in that locked room with you. I never felt so supported than in that room. I had so many people to lend an ear and had TONS of advice. I’ll definitely take you up on your offer of texting or calling you. I have a funny feeling that if they label him autistic, I’ll need someone with an inside scoop. Plus, I have a funny feeling that I will cry if it is confirmed and you give great hugs! I miss you. Say hi to Ron for me. Have you and Cheryl switched Ron’s yet? lol

  2. It will be great if you get the job you want! When will they let you know about that? Also, Dean will be fine regardless of what the doctors say because you care so much about his well being. Nothing is your fault.

    1. I still have to interview for it. Hopefully, that will happen this week at work. Thank you. I just lived with guilt for most of this year and I’m finally realizing that it’s nothing I did or didn’t do. It’s just the way Dean is. I’ll probably be upset though if they say that he is, because I’m emotional.

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